May 2014

Kiwi women need to change themselves not their men – Expert

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High divorce statistics are reflective of Kiwi couples need to learn to be passionate and resilient within their relationship says author and therapist Leanne French.

Kiwi women looking to preserve their relationships and find their happy ever after, need to look within according to one of the country’s top relationship experts.

More than 8,000 Kiwi marriages end in divorce annually a figure author and therapist Leanne French says could be reduced if women and men took greater responsibility for their own love stories.

In her new book Fairytale Love: How to Love Happily Ever After, French waves her fairy godmother’s wand on love and relationships and explains just why women are able to transform themselves from happy Disney Princess to Evil criticising Queen.

“It’s not uncommon for women to revert to a cultural norm of criticising, feeling disappointed in their partners and highlighting and communicating what’s wrong, rather than celebrating what’s right,” says French.

“I want to empower Kiwi women to understand that the changes they might be looking for outside of themselves are actually available within themselves. It’s time to enlighten Kiwis with the secrets for creating their own ‘happily ever after’ – the good news is it does exist,” she says.

French says fairytale analogies such as those featured in her book can awaken creativity, enliven our imaginations and direct our attention to common human conditions and traits of character.

“They can also entertain, empower and inspire you to really look at your own ways of thinking and behaving when faced with trials and triumph,” she says.

French, who has over 25 years’ experience counselling couples, says most problems can be resolved so couples stay together in harmony.

The negative emotional and economic consequences couples and subsequently their children face, can have devastating consequences. French says couples are often not armed with the resources to be more passionate and resilient within their relationships.

“We all need a fairy godmother with a magic wand to direct us towards better ways of loving and living because who actually teaches us this growing up? We mostly learn from what we see and I think we could do better,” she says.

But it’s not just Kiwi women who will benefit from looking within to create a successful relationship. French says Kiwi men respond well to practical tools to lift blame, invite more intimacy and connection.

Fairytale Love: How To Love Happily Ever After is available from www.leannefrench.com www.balboapress.com and www.balboapress.com.au

To download images of Leanne French, or her book, please click here.

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Fleur Revell
Fleur Revell is one of the country’s most eminent PR consultants and public relations practitioners with more than 20 years industry experience behind her. Fleur is also a three times Qantas Media Awards winner and Feature Writer of the Year; and has an exceptional working knowledge of the New Zealand media landscape and its accelerating evolution in the digital age.
Kiwi women need to change themselves not their men – Expert
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